all the single ladies

People ask me on a daily basis, it seems like anyway, are you married or have a boyfriend?

The answer is no.

There are many reasons why I am still single and I am honestly okay with that.

Some people find it hard to believe that I am okay with being single.

I am.  

Every now and then I'll get a pity look when I answer no, and then a reply of, "Oh that's okay, it'll happen."

Yeah, I know it's okay, but thanks for validating that.

annnnnd

No, you don't know that it will happen.

A few reasons I'm single:

- I'm very independent, I don't handle the "where are you going? when will you be back?" sort of thing very well.

- Commitment scares me.

- 80% of single men are douche bags. (Not all... I did give 20% leeway)

- I've had some bad dating experiences.  (I know I can't let one ruin it all, and believe me, after some of the dates I've had it's amazing I haven't become a nun or something.)

It's very tiring explaining to people why you are single and I seriously get asked it all of the time.

I just smile and say, "Nope, it's just me and my dog."

I know I probably come off as a crazy dog lady, but it usually makes people stop asking questions.

I'll try to remember to share some bad dating stories every now and then on here... 

Hey. I can't give up all my tricks at once.

john mayer

John Mayer was AMAZING.  I am so glad I got to go. My dream was for him to play MJ’s 

“Human Nature” like he did at MJ’s memorial service.  It didn’t happen.  Anyway, he played almost a 2 ½ hour set.   I could have sat there all night and listened to him play the guitar.  Some of the songs he played were:

#Assassin                  #Perfectly Lonely                  #Gravity

#Don’t Stop Believin’                   #Ain’t No Sunshine

#Why Georgia                  #Good Love is On the Way

At the end of the encore he sat his guitar down on the floor and just played for about 15 minutes.  It was seriously magical.  My heart stopped.

//

I love the lyrics to “Perfectly Lonely” on his new album Battle Studies.   I feel like it describes my life right now.  Everyone is always trying to set me up with someone because they feel that I am unhappy if I’m alone.  I am happier than I have been in a long time.   I am at a point in my life where I know someday I do want to get married and have kids, but just not right now.  I know it’s not the right time for me.  It would be unfair to whoever I was in a relationship with.  I have also been getting comments that I’m “too picky”.  Can you honestly be “too picky” when it comes to finding someone you will spend the rest of your life with?  Marriage is not 

something I take lightly, and that is why I am focusing on myself at the moment… I wouldn’t be giving my whole heart to that person.//

had a little love but I spread it thin

falling in her arms and out again

made a bad name for my game ‘round town

tore out my heart, shut it down

nothing to do

nowhere to be

a simple little kind of free

nothing to do

no one but me

that’s all I need

I’m perfectly lonely

I’m perfectly lonely

I’m perfectly lonely

Because I don’t belong to anyone

Nobody belongs to me

I see my friends around from time to time

When their ladies let them slip away

And when they ask me how I’m doin with mine

This is always what I say

nothing to do

nowhere to be

a simple little kind of free

nothing to do

no one to be

is it really hard to see why

I’m perfectly lonely

 ‘cause I don’t belong to anyone

and nobody belongs to me

and this is not to say

there never comes a day

I’ll take my chances

And start again

And when I look behind

On all my younger times

I’ll have to thank the wrongs

That led me to a love so strong

I’m perfectly lonely

‘cause I don’t belong to anyone

and nobody belongs to me

that’s the way, that’s the way, that’s the way that I want it